Day 28

Day 28 October 31st

Describe a moment when you made a big, bold, move. In any area of life: career, love, etc.

I CUT MY HAIR!!! At the time, my hair was shoulder length. I‘d wanted to cut it for a few years actually, but my boyfriend at the time was like “why you wanna cut ya hair?” Basically it was a no go for him. So I didn’t cut it. I didn’t want to get a relaxer, so I wore braids for about 6 months. He didn’t like my “Janet Jackson in poetic justice” look much either. So my birthday do was a fresh feathered wrap, long and flowing. I couldn’t get a compliment out of him, if my life depended on it. SMH! So not long after I got rid of his sorry tail (side note: I really wanna say something else, but I’m trying to keep it PG and work on my “cussin.”), I got rid of the hair to. I mean, I CUT IT ALL OFF. Short cropped due, shaved down in the back, and fire red spikes.

I was scared to do it, because I didn’t know if it would compliment my chubby cherub cheeks. But I’m so glad I did. I loved that haircut. I felt bold and exposed, and I loved it. My grandmother nearly cussed me out, and called bald headed. My mom thought it was cute, but “drastic” and couldn’t understand why I cut a head full of thick and beautiful hair. It took this experience for me to realize how much emphasis society, puts on hair. I was in awe! For the most part, I got a lot of positive feedback. Most people couldn’t believe I did it. When I took the picture to my stylist, she brushed me off at first. But when she realized I was serious, she hurried a client out of her chair and commenced to cutting my hair before as she said “I changed my mind.” LOL!

I did that for about 3 months, stopped with chemicals all together, and just let it grow from there.  Currently I’m nearly a year natural, fro’ed out, and loving every minute of it. I am so proud of myself for being brave. I wouldn’t change this experience for anything in the world! But I’ll be nice to grandma around the holiday and straighten my hair. She doesn’t like natural hair either, and she makes me pie! LOL!!!

Day 27

Day 27 October 30th

Talk about something that you really, really, really love about yourself

 

I think I have the best sense of humor. I can pretty much find a little laughter in any situation, either that or it pretty much doesn’t bother me.

Day 26

Day 26 October 29th

Name a song that makes you cry every time you hear it and why.

I can't say their is one particular song. Really just anything I hear that allows me to visualize an emotional memory. It has to be something very strong in lyrics, and tendor. Now that I think about, there is one song that takes me there every time. Its a praise and worship song,  I can't remember the name right now, but it was written and performed by a gospel indie artist.  It evokes the most sincere praise from me. Its so simply, but powerful!  The song reminds me I serve an awesome, all knowing, all powerful,  and living God. I am in awe at times of how He blesses me inspite of me. People are so judgmental sometimes,  and fear what they don't understand. They'd rather label you then take the time understand your pov. I don't let those people bother me though, I keep right on crying and praising. I have to remind myself sometimes though, "they don't know my story, so they won't understand my praise!"

Day 25

Day 25 October 28th

Describe a moment when you “paid it forward.” What happened and how did it feel?

I paid for the breakfast of the car behind me at dunkin donuts. I hope it made their day, because I felt good about it.

Day 24

Day 24 October 27th

 If you could relive ONE day of your life, what would it be? And would you change anything?

The Thanksgiving after my uncle's  funeral. I would have made a different "introduction."

Day 23

Day 23   October 26th

Talk about a moment when you got annoyed with a married friend, a person in a relationship, or a person with kids (Be honest! No judgment!)

Pretty much anytime they say "But, Niqi your single and you don't have no kids!" That pisses me off!!! No, I don't have any children. And yes, I am single. the point of that statement would be what exactly? I STILL HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES!!!! I STILL GOT BILLS!!!!

Day 22

Day 22   October 25th

What fictional character in a movie, tv show, or book do you identify with and why?

I'm sure I can identify with other characters, but the one that comes to mind is Jill Scott in "Why did I get married too?" She's been through a lot in her past, and has become a confident, strong, and influential person. The character is outspoken yet vulnerable, and still struggles from time to time with finding a happy medium/balance.