Day 14

Day 14 October 17th

                 1. Describe the last moment you felt really, truly blissful

                  I'd been having a rough time. I was having a major "life drought" and for whatever reason I just couldn't shake it. About a week after my "breakdown" if you will, I was just happy, and for no reason. I woke up that morning and everything was ok. Not like "oh things will get better ok" but like "my life is good" ok.
                    

Day 13

Day 13 October 16th

1.  Describe how you met the last person you texted and talk about your friendship/relationship

So the last person I text was my sister, Rasheeda. Ironically enough I met her the day she was born, seeing as though I'm the oldest. We have our ups and downs, sometimes I wanna whup her ass, sometimes I wanna be the shoulder she needs to cry on. I crack jokes and talk about her, but i wont let anybody else say anything negative about her. Then I'd have to whup their ass! I guess that's what siblings do! I think ours may be a little more strained than the typical sisterhood, but we love each other  and that's all that really matters anyway!

Don't judge my grammar to harshly,  I typed this on my phone....lol

Day 12

Day 12 October 15

Your proudest accomplishment

My biggest accomplishment to date, is by far self acceptance. Simply put I LOVE ME! From the soles of my feet to the top of my head, flaws and all, I'm just an all around awesome chic. Not to metion FAT GURL FLY!

Day 11

Day 11 October 14th

Your worst/funniest/most embarrassing date

The one that comes to mind happened a few years ago. The guy was supposed to meet me, but I ended up having to pick him up, which is a whole other issue in itself. Anyway the short version is; over the course of dinner I'm informed he's living with a woman and her 4 kids. Coincidentally enough, they are not in a relationship and none of the children are his, yea right! And that concludes my horror of a date story.

Day 10

Day 10 October 13th

Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn’t fit you.

Top of FoBott

Niquita \n(i)-qui-ta\ as a girl's name is a variant of Nikita (Greek), and the meaning of Niquita is "unconquered".

So for those that don't know my government name is Niquita (pronounced Nikita). The male version Nikita, is Slavic with some Irish roots; however the female version is spelled with a "q" and is African. I found that little tidbit of information hilarious considering how I got my name. My dad already had a son, 10 years my senior, when my mom was pregnant with me. I was the 1st girl and my dad wanted to name me, mommy agreed. Fast forward a few months, daddy still didn't have a name and I can only assume that my mom was getting a little agitated. My father is/was a huge wrestling fan, and ironically enough I'm named after a wrestler. Now if that ain't some mess right there. Daddy was watching WWF on TV and they announced a popular wrestler, Nikita Koloff. He told mommy my name was going to be Nikita, and she loved it. She said it was unique, but didn't want to spell it "Nikita". So mom, with her intelligent college educated self, eats a Chiquita banana and gets a bright idea. Take the CH off; add an N, and viola. There you have it, Niquita!

I died of embarrassment when I found out the history behind my name; my damned parents jacked me up for life. I laugh at it now though, because my mom was right, my name is extremely unique and so fitting. I researched my name intensively a few years ago. I wanted to make sure my parents didn't curse me with some foolishness. I was pleasantly surprised though by its meaning, "unconquered." How powerful is that? I'm extremely opinionated, open-minded, and resilient. My life hasn't been easy, but every time I fall down, I get back up! I've survived failed relationships, financial hardships, depression, mental breakdowns, loss of friendships, diminished capacity; you name it and I more than likely have a story for it. God has blessed me beyond measure. I am a living breathing miracle. I am a testament to perseverance and fortitude. So even though the story behind my name is quite humorous, I can’t deny mommy and daddy did something right all those years ago. And I'll continue to prove them right by living "unconquered!"

 

Day 9

Day 9 October 12th

Your favorite “weird/funny single behavior” – Anything you do that is uniquely YOU and that living alone allows you to do (For example, I sometimes dance around the house with my cat to Frank Sinatra)

        1. The first thing I do when I walk in the door from work is take off my shoes and bra. I gotta let the girls breath! LOL! Outside of that, I don't have any really crazy or weird "home alone" habits.

Day 8

Day 8 October 11th

Five things that are the most important to you in a future mate.

1.)    Christian – Hands down no questions asked! If we can’t pray together, we can’t lay together. It’s extremely important to me that my mate be spiritually grounded. I believe my husband should and will be the head of my household, so if he has no relationship with God I have to wonder who is leading him. I can’t entrust my life or that of my children to a man who can be easily consumed by society. I need him to be strong enough to stand alone when necessary, and I speak from experience when I tell you that can only happen with faith.

2.)    Provider - Can we keep it all the way real? No woman wants a broke man! Period! My mate should be willing and able to provide for me and any offspring. I refuse to be concerned about SCEG cutting off the lights, or the mortgage being behind 2 months and counting. My well being is his responsibility and he is supposed to take care of all of his responsibilities. Now don’t get it twisted, there are exceptions to every rule.  I never said I won’t pay any bills, etc. I as his wife, hold the title as helpmate. Which means “I HELP MY MATE.” If his income reduces, or something comes up, I have no issue stepping in and picking up the slack, but I will not be carrying the weight.

3.)    Security – I absolutely have to feel safe and secure. My mate has to be my superman. We’re going to the neighborhood Halloween party as superman and Lois Lane, cape and all. LOL! If some ish (yes I meant to say that) hit the fan, my man will be the one to stand in front of me or push me out of the way. Now me with my crazy self, I’d be right beside him trying to throw the first blow talking about “baby I got you!” LOL! In all seriousness though, I expect for him to be watchful and mindful of me in all situations. Call me to make sure I made it to work safely if it was raining when I left home for work, walk on the outside of me if we are walking down the street, and me keep me close in a crowd.

4.)    Gentleman – You gotta treat me right! That means opening doors, pulling out chairs, being affectionate, shower me with compliments, chivalrous, spending quality time, taking out the trash, taking me on REAL DATES, great conversation, respectful etc. I expect for my mate to treat me like the lady I am and be proud to have me on his arm. Don’t be too much of a gentleman though. For example, it’s ok to smack my butt as I walk through the door your currently holding open for me. IJS, don’t judge me!

5.)    Attractive – Please give me something to look at. Lawd a mercy! There has to be something about him that makes me weak. For example, the ex I was talking about in a previous post was not attractive. He looked like a straight up ninja turtle. I mean Raphael, Michelangelo, and Donatello! Ya’ll think I’m playing, but I am soooooo serious. He hated when I called him Donnie. BUT he could dress his chocolate but off, and he always smelled good. I’ll faint for a good smelling man, you hear me? You couldn’t tell me he wasn’t the sexiest thing walking God’s green earth. He had these awesomely broad shoulders, and could wear a suit. Hmmmmm, amen! In the mighty name of Jesus. I would just stare at him sometimes, and jump his bones every chance I got. And if the opportunity to “molest” him didn’t present itself fast enough, I would create an opportunity!

6.)    Outgoing//Adventurous – I know it was only supposed to be 5, but this is an absolute must. I like to get up and go! I stay on the move, and I need a partner who is willing to move with me. Concert, bar, restaurant, festival, road trip, stage play, basketball game, or traveling from Vegas to Europe, to the islands. New experiences and a mate willing to share them are a necessity in my life! Did I fail to mention spontaneous and open-minded? My bad. I like to “try” new things in new places too, so you gotta be down for that. You’re grown, read between the lines of that last sentence.