Day 8

Day 8 October 11th

Five things that are the most important to you in a future mate.

1.)    Christian – Hands down no questions asked! If we can’t pray together, we can’t lay together. It’s extremely important to me that my mate be spiritually grounded. I believe my husband should and will be the head of my household, so if he has no relationship with God I have to wonder who is leading him. I can’t entrust my life or that of my children to a man who can be easily consumed by society. I need him to be strong enough to stand alone when necessary, and I speak from experience when I tell you that can only happen with faith.

2.)    Provider - Can we keep it all the way real? No woman wants a broke man! Period! My mate should be willing and able to provide for me and any offspring. I refuse to be concerned about SCEG cutting off the lights, or the mortgage being behind 2 months and counting. My well being is his responsibility and he is supposed to take care of all of his responsibilities. Now don’t get it twisted, there are exceptions to every rule.  I never said I won’t pay any bills, etc. I as his wife, hold the title as helpmate. Which means “I HELP MY MATE.” If his income reduces, or something comes up, I have no issue stepping in and picking up the slack, but I will not be carrying the weight.

3.)    Security – I absolutely have to feel safe and secure. My mate has to be my superman. We’re going to the neighborhood Halloween party as superman and Lois Lane, cape and all. LOL! If some ish (yes I meant to say that) hit the fan, my man will be the one to stand in front of me or push me out of the way. Now me with my crazy self, I’d be right beside him trying to throw the first blow talking about “baby I got you!” LOL! In all seriousness though, I expect for him to be watchful and mindful of me in all situations. Call me to make sure I made it to work safely if it was raining when I left home for work, walk on the outside of me if we are walking down the street, and me keep me close in a crowd.

4.)    Gentleman – You gotta treat me right! That means opening doors, pulling out chairs, being affectionate, shower me with compliments, chivalrous, spending quality time, taking out the trash, taking me on REAL DATES, great conversation, respectful etc. I expect for my mate to treat me like the lady I am and be proud to have me on his arm. Don’t be too much of a gentleman though. For example, it’s ok to smack my butt as I walk through the door your currently holding open for me. IJS, don’t judge me!

5.)    Attractive – Please give me something to look at. Lawd a mercy! There has to be something about him that makes me weak. For example, the ex I was talking about in a previous post was not attractive. He looked like a straight up ninja turtle. I mean Raphael, Michelangelo, and Donatello! Ya’ll think I’m playing, but I am soooooo serious. He hated when I called him Donnie. BUT he could dress his chocolate but off, and he always smelled good. I’ll faint for a good smelling man, you hear me? You couldn’t tell me he wasn’t the sexiest thing walking God’s green earth. He had these awesomely broad shoulders, and could wear a suit. Hmmmmm, amen! In the mighty name of Jesus. I would just stare at him sometimes, and jump his bones every chance I got. And if the opportunity to “molest” him didn’t present itself fast enough, I would create an opportunity!

6.)    Outgoing//Adventurous – I know it was only supposed to be 5, but this is an absolute must. I like to get up and go! I stay on the move, and I need a partner who is willing to move with me. Concert, bar, restaurant, festival, road trip, stage play, basketball game, or traveling from Vegas to Europe, to the islands. New experiences and a mate willing to share them are a necessity in my life! Did I fail to mention spontaneous and open-minded? My bad. I like to “try” new things in new places too, so you gotta be down for that. You’re grown, read between the lines of that last sentence.