Day 7

Day 7 October 10^th

1.)    Where are you in life vs. where you thought you would be at this point?

I thought I’d be married with at least one child, a college degree, and a homeowner. Instead I’m single, no kids, a townhome, and 2 years away from my Bachelors. That’s a helluva difference when you see it written in black and white. Though I can’t say it bothers me much. 5 years ago I was engaged to great guy and we made all kinds of plans together, unfortunately that relationship didn’t pan out the way either of us would have liked. But you live and you learn, life happens. I’ve adjusted well and set new goals for myself. I’m working on being the best me I can be. I intentionally surround myself with: spiritually grounded, well rounded, articulate, intelligent, and driven individuals who help cultivate me. I’ve been blessed in my career, with longevity (8 years and counting) and the ability to control my income (for the most part). I’ve reestablished my voice on paper, performed on stages, platforms, and with established entertainers. I developed real relationships with people based on a mutual connection, interests, and respect. Not to mention, I stamp my passport on a regular basis. I’m just different. Still as crazy as ever. LOL! But, different and I like it. The metamorphosis in my journey of where I thought I’d be and where I am: I’m just fine with the me God made me, and that’s enough!

Day 6

Day 6 October 9^th

1.)    Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

CHILE BOO, STOP!!!!!! If that’s the case I wouldn’t be single. I think as women we have more control of our love life. But nothing is every exactly what you want it to be. I don’t expect my love life to be perfect, and if it was “EXACTLY” what I wanted it to be, that would equate to perfection. While the fantasy is quite lovely, it’s not realistic. And more important than anything to me; I want my “love” to be mutual, real, and honest.

Day 5

Day 5 October 8th

1.)    The biggest misconception you think people have about single life.

I think most people feel like you can’t be a whole person without your other half. If that ain’t a bunch of BS. I think single people (usually in their late 20’s and older) are the most complete individuals on earth. By that age most people have had the time to cultivate who they are as individuals. In short you know who you are, and that makes you more effective as a person in any relationship and/or situation.

Day 4

Day 4 October 7th

1.)    Your biggest fear as a single person.

That’s probably the easiest for me to answer. My biggest fear by far is that I’ll never be a wife or mother. Either that or I’ll end up with an asshole!

Day 3

Day 3 October 6^th

1.)    Describe a moment or day when being single was really awesome.

I had just put my ex out. He wasn’t exactly the best boyfriend anyway, so there was no sweat off my back. Any who, I remember I didn’t feel like cooking so I didn’t. I picked up something for dinner on my way home. And it felt really good, to do what I wanted, just because I wanted too, and not worry about spending excess money because this or that bill needed to be paid. After all, when you’re the only person fending for two grown folk you have to be budget conscious. Hence, why I put him out….LOL

Day 2

Day 2 October 5^th

1.)    Describe a moment or a day when being single really sucked.       

I was  at Red Lobster recently with my best friend. It was only a week left in their all you can eat shrimp special. Don’t judge me! Anyway, there was a young couple with a baby girl. Dad carried the baby carriage and still managed to hold the door open for mom. They seemed so secure and comfortable with one another. From his stance you could tell, he loved both his ladies and was very protective of both in their respective right. His hand rested on mom’s right hip, and when a seat became available in the waiting area he stood and allowed her to sit. When they were seated a few tables away from us, dad held, fed, and burped the baby before he even touched his food. I was supremely jealous! I instantly wished I was to be so lucky as to find and be blessed with a man who was as protective, affectionate, attractive (did I forget to mention the brotha was fine?), attentive, and a great dad.

30-Day Challenge ( Day 1)

I rarely ever feel challenges relevant but my twitter friend @TheSingleWoman posted a 30-Day Blogging Challenge, so since my blog could use a bit of exercise I decided I’d give it a try. So for the next 30 days I will try my best to be open and honest in answering and elaborating my response to each of the 30 questions. I hope you’ll join me or in the very least find some sort of amusement in the craziness that is my thoughts.  I’m a few days behind, so the first post will contain a few questions and answers. A link to the challenge is listed below. Happy Blogging!

http://thesinglewoman.net/2013/10/04/the-single-womans-30-day-blogging-challenge/

Day 1 October 4th

1.)    Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are you single?”

Why do married people or people in relationships always feel it’s something wrong with you if you’re single and over the age of 25? The question alone usually comes along with some sort of unspoken condemnation. My counter reply you ask “Chile Boo, BYE!” I’m happy being exactly who I am! Now saying I’m a happy and satisfied single is stretching it just a bit. Ok, a lot! But that doesn’t mean I’m not content in my singleness, which by the way I am. I’m single by default. My infamous reply is always the same “I’m forced to be single, because I choose not to settle!” I’m one of a few in a rare breed, and the danger with women like me, is we know it. I have a lot to offer my potential mate, and I need someone who is willing and able to meet me halfway. Beyond that I’m prayerful. I’m picky as all get out, so I continually pray for discernment in choosing my mate. Let’s be real, at 27 I’m looking to be in this thing for the long haul. I’m not interested in another extensive relationship that does not end in “I now pronounce you husband and wife.”  And I know in order for that to happen I need to be patient, understanding, and quiet so I can hear God when He speaks. So even though I get lonely, and would say I do tomorrow if I could, I think its best I wait on His approval.